Good point, iwantittowork. How could you ever come up with a definative answer to that question? What would support a yes or a no, that is verifiable? Nothing. All you know is that you weren't living the lie, you loved. What your spouse felt is anyones's guess and she may not even really know. So, it'a a normal but pointless exercise to ponder "was it all a lie". You can never know and therefore cannot base your future happiness on getting an answer to that question. It will come and it will go, just let it go and carry on with now! You'll be fine, we've all been where you're at!
