It is good that you are standing up for yourself, and you are certainly not wrong in calling it what it is.

But keep in mind that WAS's rarely react reasonably to being confronted. In his state of mind, all you are doing is reinforcing his mental image of the relationship: you're being controlling, trying to tell him who he can and can't be friends with, etc.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."