Hi Lea, so sorry that the ugliness your H showed. That I am sure was painful and ugly. Please detach from him completely. Do not answer him as to why you are not communicating with him. He knows why, is trying to find the easy way to approach the subject. As I have said to you before, he is not as happy as he wants you to think. The spitting proved it. He realizes he us losing you or control over you. Stay strong, he's given you the motivation to stay away, take it. I'm glad u came back to site. Did u get my message in fb?