One thing I was wondering about is why I'm so emotional right now? It's been 11 months since I moved out. This morning after getting the girls to school I came back home to eat breakfast and I broke down again. What was hitting this morning was the question -- "Was it all a lie?"
Hey CTH, We have all been here, and asked these same questions, so we know how you feel. I'll try and rephrase my thoughts to you in hopes you can see it..
The answer to the question "Was it all a lie" is not what matters. However, the reason you are emotional about it, is you have chosen not to accept the answer to it.
Let me explain, if I can.
There are two answers to that question.
1- "Yes, it was all a lie" 2- "No, it was not all a lie"
Knowing that, which answer will make you feel better, in your current situation?
There is only 1 answer to that question.
Neither.
So, how do we cope with it?
We accept that either answer may be true, but neither answer affects our current present moment!
Keep the focus on you, and your kids, not things that are beyond your control. Truly, the answer to that question you posed is beyond your control, so you can let it go
I wish you the best CTH, you deserve it, and keep that in your mind as well!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
