Ok the obvious answer is to shut her out of the room. I know this but H seems to only think that we should make love when we are in bed any way. Not go there specially (or worse do it somewhere else!) You can see he is not very adventurous. I'm not sure if he would tell me about any fantasies he might have. Like me, I think he is a little mixed up about sex. Sometimes he talks about it perfectly normally in what I would call a mature manner. Other times he seems to feel it is perverted. I guess if I asked him seriously he would say it is a good thing in a marriage and nothing wrong with it. But on another level he is uncomfortable with it. I suppose this is all ASSumption however. The important thing is what I should do.
I think I will try to be extra nice to him and spoil him a bit. Also I will try the technique of "acting as if" when I talk about this with him. I will act as if he is being understanding and see what he does.
I told him I was ordering the video and he was OK about it. I won't try to force him to watch it tho, just ask and see how he reacts.
I'm not really bitter. I think it is because I am trying to do something and the progress is pretty slow. It gets frustrating in more ways than one! I will try to focus on all the good things he does for me. I will forget about this until the time is right to actually do something. Well I will go and play with the puppy and take my mind off it.
