Puppy, the rest--you are SO good at boundaries--is there hope for me??? (I USED to be so independent!!) I have tried to set boundaries, but I think I'm coming across as "controlling". There are just those subtle differences....any good sites you know of to help a person learn?
Laura, I'll take a peek at your thread, so as not to further hijack here, but I do think Allen has written some very good and thought-provoking posts recently about the whole "controlling" thing. I think that word gets thrown around (much as "racist," or "homophobe" do sometimes) as a way to just instantly stifle discussion.
Allen's view is, the opposite of "controlling" is "OUT-of-control," and when did that exactly become a GOOD thing???
