Former Sucessful DB'er needs help again

[soleil]

I have thought about getting C for myself. I have not considered MC because my W considers this issue "dead" and I am afraid bringing the issue up again will be destructive.

You have nothing to lose in asking to go to MC together.

I have skepticisms of IC and don't know how W would react to that.

You'd be going for you, not her, in IC.

but i know from experience that (especially when it's a good friend) it really only messes with the heads of everyone involved and can often end up breaking up friendships (or marriages).

My friend wanted to do a 3some so badly with her partner and they finally did it one day and it played a huge part in the breakdown of their R.