Goodness, you guys are full of SO much good infor!! Ken, I am not where you are, thank goodness, but their advice is making me rethink some of my own tactics with a bratty, sulky H that can't seem to make up his mind if he wants his W and S or ?? Not sure what he wants (he is not involved in anything that I know of though.)
I was here 6 years ago and got the ILYNIL speach. DB'd like crazy, got my marriage back but I became VERY WIMPY. UGh!! It is NOT ATTRACTIVE!!!
Fast forward 6 years to the present, and my H has become a monster--angry, moody, verbally abusive, no sex, very controlling. I KNOW he has no respect for me--I have given into him over and over and over. His LL is Acts of Service and I have probably gone overboard--the guy doesn't do anything around the house, doesn't make a single meal. How in the HELL did I get to be this woman!?!
So I have gone BACK to GAL which is a 180 from my first 180 It feels SO WRONG and yet...I know it's the right thing to do. And Allen, Puppy, the rest--you are SO good at boundaries--is there hope for me??? (I USED to be so independent!!) I have tried to set boundaries, but I think I'm coming across as "controlling". There are just those subtle differences....any good sites you know of to help a person learn?
Ken, I hope I have gotten across to you that WIMPS are UNATTRACTIVE. Strngth is ALWAYS admired. Courage is the way to go. You have so much good support here--I encourage you to really take to heart the advice given!
