Thanks Honey I am going to keep posting and let people see how it works out for me now. At least they will be able to avoid some of my mistakes!!
Talking of mistakes last night I ment to talk to my H about the adoption idea. I wanted to get his opinion on it before thinking about it any further, but I was sort of scared to bring it up. I wasn't sure how he would react. I don't know why I should feel this way as normally I can talk to him about most subjects apart from the embarassing/awkward r problem ones. Perhaps because it was quite important to me. Anyway it was quite late by the time we had opportunity to talk and he was tired- and I knew it was a bad idea to try and have a sensitive discussion when he was tired! Also I started off badly by calling him by a jokey pet name I have for him which I think he doesn't much like but somehow I have got in the habit of calling him by it. Then I lost my nerve and didn't say anything. That really annoyed him and he got up and went to bed. But I went after him and said I was sorry and he was OK about it. So there you are how not to have an R talk.
Today I had another go at this, this time much better. He was in a good mood and not tired or irritable. I forced myself to ask him his opinion and he said he is OK with the idea. So I told him I was considering it and he seemed interested if not wildly enthusiastic. I am definately going to think more about this now.
Whenever I bring something up like this with my H I seem to automatically expect a bad response and he always pleasantly surprises me by being very thoughtful and kind. I thought I would write him a little letter to say Thanks and put something in there about working on talking more. And tell him I lurrrve him
