W officially in R w/ OM-

[newmama]

It is not an open door for W, at least not wide open...I have a lot of boundaries for her:

-IC
-Treatment and meetings
-honesty w/ everyone in her life involved in this (family, friends, my family)
-humility and accepting responsibility to my family and the disrespect she displayed
-NC w/ OM1/OM2


Once this is done, I will consider MC and rebuilding a R...then perhaps our M.

It is a tall order- I do NOT need my parents to approve of my M- but I do require my M to be as healthy and fulfilling as possible

W/o these things there can be nothing...not even a friendship.

Jasper, you posted the above. So excuse my q- but what is the problem? You go back to not contacting W and hanging out with OW (if you want to). Live your life and if W does those things then you said you would possibly consider R.

About your parents- that sucks. They are doing tough love it sounds like but in a punitive way- still if your W did the things you asked then it is not your parents' business if you decide you want her. But it will be a long time before she completes those tasks correct? So time will tell-if it takes 6 months- a year and she did all of that then you can see she is serious. If not, you have detached and found someone else in the process and can be "better off."

My SIL's H took 3 -4 times before he finally agreed to her list. She had a boyfriend in the meanwhile so she wasn't in a hurry to take him back. And she also did not want him back for the wrong reasons. Just sayin.'