ps--and it's not like he "didn't take sides" in this. by discarding D14 and myself and supporting xH's movement toward priesthood, taking a leadership role in the congregation and being active in leading liturgies, he DID behave as if xH had the right to shuck off a family that no longer suited his needs.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012