Zen,
I am sorry for my mixed up posts last night-and I realized I missed your first post where you already said some things that I had asked.

Now before you think I am a hippocrate (lol!) remember that my WH has brought up D to me several times so it makes me think he will do it if I push. I am not in the same place you are.

You hold the cards- you moved out once before; why did you return? How did your H act when you moved out? Please explain a little about that.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004