dedicated said: I cannot believe that I've given half of my life to my H and he's now completely throwing me and the life we made in the trash! It's like I'm 16 years old and being thrown to the wolves yet I have two children to support as well and have to start completely over with nothing.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I can see how you would feel that way. This whole situation is very sudden and shocking.
I'm glad your mother-in-law has been so honest and helpful with you.
I agree that if you date and he comes back in six months you will spend the rest of your life hearing about it. Probably you should set a year or so waiting period in your mind before you "let him go" completely. Meaning you will definitely shut the door to hope of reconciliation after that, because you KNOW this is not a man who can EVER forgive and forget your for "moving on" even though he divorced you.
It sounds like your husband is a very angry man with a mood problem. Without therapy, medication, exercise, church counseling, self help, or any of the many things people to do work on themselves, their moods, and their tempers, how can you ever rely on him again? Is he the type of man to admit he needs help and get it? If not, even if he comes back (like he did before) in a year or so, you will ultimately be staring down the same shotgun barrel again.
You can spend this year thinking about a way to get consistency and happiness in your life with or without the constant chaos of this man.
I'm sorry you had such a tough week. I'm glad you made some decisions to move towards hopefully protecting your housing. Try to stay positive for the kids. If you get sleeping problems, go to the doctor and get medicine and don't let that go on for months. A lot of newly separated women on this forum suddenly lose twenty pounds from the stress and wind up on anti-depressants for a few months due to the extreme stress.
Maybe someone at your church will be available to give you some support if you reach out to them soon.
I'm sure it's shocking to be looking for a job and dealing with all of this in a month's time.
