I can see it might be constructive to say what you would have liked from him, what might have made a difference to you and your D e.g. checking on us once in a while etc. I think often Pastors get so busy with the illnesses, deaths etc that those who aren't demanding their attention can get left at the wayside. I also think they often leave contact up to the person because one person can be overjoyed at being contacted while another may feel they are being intruded on. Either way,it'a tough job and I wouldn't want to do it! I know there have been times when I've sat and cried and carried on for two hours and my Pastor has sat there, listened and been quite empathetic yet he never comes up to me to say "Hey, just wondering how you're doing with that sitch we discussed" But, I also know that the guy is there for everybody day or night and works seven days a week (not that he should). I don't know anything about your Pastor but he may have some great qualities in other ways but if you feel you could be of help by passing on what would have helped you, then go for it! That can't hurt a bit.
