I looked in the mirror and finally saw my face, not surrounded by everyone else's. Time to focus.
And what a beautiful face it is!
Good for you my friend!
Sorry to hear about the latest intel. But, now you know and you can move onwards and upwards for you and the kids. You are one strong and amazing woman!
But, it's not altogether awful to have friends all across the world! No matter where you go, there's someone nearby to support you. Life could be a lot worse!
Jeff, you are so right. I'm going to be in CA soon, and I finally get to meet LUVLESS!! My (feels like)long-time friend. I'm psyched.
LUV - Furry balls? OK, funny kid story... S10 comes out from school yesterday... they've seen THE MOVIE (4th grade version of sex ed). He gets in the car. "You know I'm going to get hairy balls soon, right?" (Or something close.) Nice. What exactly do you say to that?
FLO - Thanks, but I'm ok. I wouldn't have made it through the night w/out some good talk, and distraction from it. Keep your DB friends close. They are saviors!
KARA - My funny, funny, friend, who is as wise as they come. You hit my biggest sore spot... My boys (and my daughter - even though she's out and about on her own - she is BFF's w/my H) have led a completely charmed life w/the attention and adoration of two parents. Their world is about to change significantly. But, my main goal in this legal separation will be to learn from onset to co-parent successfully. Nothing else matters to me, but that... right now. HUGS, my friend.
RULED - You have always ROCKED to me. Thank you. And, our 13yo's are destined to marry one day. What wonderful in-laws we'll be!
BBJ - I was waitin' for you to show w/the wine!!! I have to catch up w/you. I need some giggles.
OK, but, really... I HAVE TO WORK
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I have the final report from the PI. It is all I didn't hope for and more.
More? WTH? Is he dating a man AND a woman? He has a child? Is he married? Ok... This is no joke. I just cant get it how they do it. 3 years into this, I lived my share of craziness, read hundreds of stories here and I am always amazed. Not shocked anymore, but amazed.
Expecting your message on FB... Hugs K
Prepare to be hit with reality. It wont feel good. Your anger will surface and I hope you will be able to control it. The kids will ask questions, the kids will be watching you and him. Stay focused and protect them. Just try to not get sucked into drama but dont avoid your feelings, FACE them. xxx
It really is possible to co-parent successfully. Both or you will have to want to do it. I know you will, and despite my intense dislike for him, I kinda have a feeling that he will, too. Though at first he is going to be pissed, and might not be real cooperative about anything. But that will just be his anger at getting caught. He really thought he was clever enough not to, I think.
Wish you were all local, as it really is touching to be cared about and for. Special thanks for Fergalicious for being "here"...
You and I have talked a lot about your sitch. I'm not sure I have offered much in the way of truly helpful advice.
You have had a very long line of folks helping you with excellent advice, long before I hit the scene. I just happened to cut in line. (It's my bad manners)
My apologies to the DB superstars, because you have done (and are still doing) the heavy lifting.
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LUV - Furry balls? OK, funny kid story... S10 comes out from school yesterday... they've seen THE MOVIE (4th grade version of sex ed). He gets in the car. "You know I'm going to get hairy balls soon, right?" (Or something close.) Nice. What exactly do you say to that?
Oh man. That is exactly what thought about when I read the "furry balls". I didn't want to steal your story...
Mindful you have grown into such a strong woman. I am proud of you. Even in the face of the most awful news - there are better days coming for you. I am sure of that!
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I agree with the others sweetie.. You have evolved! I read your thread from start to finish and just look at you now. God bless girlie. We are here for you!
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
