Let her know that you are willing to be fully transparent with her with regards to this co-worker, and ask if she's willing to do the same with her OM.
Keep the 2x4's coming! I've screwed up in the past and I continue to screw up. At least I know it now and can develop a path forward.
I think I have been transparent. There is nothing b/w me and this coworker, so there isn't a lot I can do. W has done this before with other coworkers. Meets them once, doesn't like a smile or kind word passed my way, and then it's on. This other person is single, so going for drinks with her and W won't fly!
As far as I know she has had zero contact with OM for at least a month. OM must be on total lockdown from OMW. I assume this is all true b/c W keeps telling best girlfriend how much she just has to know why OM suddenly shut her out for no stated reason. Calling her bluff about being transparent won't work b/c she'll just repeat that she has no contact with OM.
