Had a great night, had fun, feel a lot better about things. Feel like I have said my peace with her and ready to move on. Had fun with the kids, and tried to have fun with W but she was not in a fun mood, although she would forget some times and start to perk up, only to remember that she is still mad at me.
@Puppy, I'm sure there will be, but I won't be one of them. Alas, I suffer from long torso/short leg proportions. But I'm happy to go see a traditional Vegas show!
@Burt, I understand, we've all been young and made foolish mistakes. I think if that's the only thing you'd lied to her about in all these years then she's the one who needs to let it go. And you probably could mention that the next time she brings it up. "W, I have apologized for that many times. I understand that I broke your trust. I have been honest with you since then. When you continue to bring this up it makes me feel ____. It's not productive to live in the past so let's figure out a way to put this to rest for once and for all."
As for not treating her like a child, I think following the Golden Rule would serve you well here. Stop and think about how you would react if she treated you that way. If you wouldn't like it, don't do it to her. I know it will take some practice but I also know you can do it.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
I have been living by Puppy's words of asking, "What is the right thing to do". I certainly know it is not the right thing to do, to make her feel belittled.
I struggle sometimes with wanting to be a leader of the family and not being the take it over ass of the family, lol. It is quite the balancing act for me.
When I figure it out, I am writing a book that you can purchase, lol.
Played golf yesterday with a longtime friend, a former roommate of mind and in turn he unknowingly got to be the roommate of my soon to be wife. Brought him by to see her and the kids as they have not seen him in well over 3 years. She was happy to see him.
Things are settling down now, kisses goodbye in the morning again, some hugs but still not having any action at night. Been a long dryspell. Going out this Friday, going to make my move afterwards.
Volunteering on Saturday as I went to church alone Sunday and signed up for a Meels on Wheels type of thing. She thinks I am lying about going on Saturday morning, but I thought it was time I start giving back what I can>
I guess I needed some luck, 9 year old stayed over, but 12 year old had to stay home, and when that happens, he stays on our couch in our room.
Tried this morning but got the IM tired honey.
Will try again tonight, if I get the cold shoulder I do not think I will try again for a while.
Went to church today with W, had a good time, good message. Neither of us are ultra religious and have our problems with organized religion in general, but our Minister does have some great messages you can take.
Helped out Saturday at a meal on wheels program making jumbalaya, it looked pretty good.
Thinking about going to counseling for myself this week as I think I need someone to assist me in making some decisions.
Sorry about the no-nookie, dude. Wish I had some answers for you, but being in a long-term SSM myself, I'm afraid I don't. Everyone always says you're just supposed to press on, and keep on initiating despite the rejection, but I'm just too damned proud to do that.
Kids go to bed last night, I go over to W's couch and make a move, she says she does not want to, I said in my sexy voice, what do you not want to do? She says kiss you. I get up and probably mistakenly go back to her and asks if she is having an affair. She says no, and be quiet the kids are still up.
We go upstairs I am brushing my teeth, and she says, "You think if something does not go your way, there must be something there to fix". I said, "I am a fixer, and if something is not right I try to fix it."
I then got more upset and said, "I guess I just have to make more money to get laid, well next month is looking good, looks like I will have enough to pay for some, what does that make you?" (Ouch, should have not said that)
She turned on the TV to watch the weather, when the weather was over I told her to turn it down, I have to get up in the morning and go to work.
It has been about 4 or 5 weeks, that is the second longest stretch since we met.
I was brushing my teeth this morning, she said "good morning" I did not say anything, what is the right thing to do? I came down to the kitchen, gave her a kiss on the cheek and said good morning to her. She seemed appreciative and started to engage me in conversation.
