You have a point. I just hate the thought of him sitting smugly at his desk thinking, "whew, I defused that one. it's all good." and then repeating this kind of thing in the future with someone else. no, I can't control that, but he's thinking he's a good guy, and he's really a cowardly weasel and I think he should get called on it--and clearly, nobody's doing that.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012