(((shelbel))) that's tough news for your friend. Tomorrow is the first anniversary of the death of my 4 year old neice so I understand completely about how things can quickly bring our situations into perspective.
To add to what Mr. Bond says ... I also think the WAS wants us to get mad because it makes their life easier and the decisions they're making easier to handle for them. It helps them "justify" what they are doing. If I get mad and react and lose it then he can say "see, I was right, she's a crazy bitch, I'm outta here". I won't give him that. I won't make this easier for him and I won't help him justify his decisions.
H's sister called me the other day to see how I was doing and she told me that she told H that she thought I was amazing and that most people in my position would have shown him the door. That he is lucky to have a spouse willing to give him time and space without all the drama. It's nice to know my efforts are not going unnoticed
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
