Ken. I tried Option 1 for over a YEAR and the EA just got physical instead... worse essenstially.

Once I started option 2 the OM was gone inside of three months.

So, you want to go with something that takes 12+ months to do instead of the one that takes under 3?

AND using Option 1 she is very likely to sleep with him since it takes that much longer.

Option 1 takes a LOT LONGER.. and because of that you put your marraige at much more SERIOUS RISK