So OM turned himself into your 'nemisis'? What does Wife think about it? ( she should think she made a mistake and realize she likes you much more and loves you )
It may be your advantage to never say a word to him, because you don't want to "relieve" that pressure, unless you actually need to ...
If that fight goes down, wife better jump on his ass too. I know that would make you feel good.
wouldn't call him nemisis - more like a low life scum bag.
thing is - am i upset...hell yes. would i love to knock his teeth into the back of his head...you bet....again becase this guy was my friend sat and listend to him about his problems with his W and all that crap too...
sadly it would not change anythign that has happened in the past...unlike MR. Bond (which was way cool btw)only the 4 immediate people know about what was going on, and i would like to keep it that way for my own reasons of course. OM wants to keep it secret as well because of all the lies he told otheres about how badly his W treated him to get sympathy from others after moving out of his house.
I also don't think W would be "happy" if i sunk to that level either, so the day will come very soon and i will keep my emotions in check ala Mr. Bond (i hope)- but as i tell my kids if someone starts a physical fight with you i will not be mad at you for defending yourself physically.
gman
Last edited by gman; 04/22/1002:30 PM.
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
When I was younger and closer to the playa side, I knew "OM's", that they would record and log most of their dealings with W's, and offshoots of those guys would either rob, or blackmail the husband/wife.
The wife never knew how bad she was badtalked ( hoe, slut, etc ) by these OM's while they had them. Some OM's know they are getting all into your business and may even attack you or have their cronies do it. Now that I know that OM/OW usually make themself hate the spouse, and that I am much older I am so much more wary about cheating myself.
I don't want to talk too much about my sitch, but in it, OM was in a different state. I'm not sure if they still speak or if there is a new one. Wife built up an ego off of it, and has not released it. This particular ego is not good for me as it usually makes me feel diminished.
Early on in our relationship and why I married her, the ego was shared with mine and got stronger if I was doing good. This new one tends to go against me and be critical of me, and I'll be damned if I treat my own wife like a sister. Some of it is like OfficerInNeed and others like James217. I am not that man though.
I know that an altercation or affair bursting will be a nearly instantaneous way to reverse the decline in perception and personal power.
See when wife cheats on us, sometimes they put us into a "son" role others a "brother" role, we occasionally end up far down on the "friends ladder", and sometimes they just find reasons to hate us...
You know as well as I do, the longer these things go on, the further away they are pulling from you, and the more that they will try to pull over on you, and the worse they look at you.
So you know what I'm saying. I want a reversal of the downfall in this situation.
I do know however, that females who are unaware of my situation, give me all "my chips", that I'm used to having up front. So I know with a woman that values me, outside of this sitch, I'm good. I will never let this happen to me again.
I want to hear some stories. I hope to add some of my own.
