However, this is her time when she feels most guilty for pushing the D on you, as she should. Don't let her guilt make you feel that she's truly remorseful or wants to change things. She just wants to feel less guilty and wants you to somehow console her, don't. Go dark as much as possible.
This is so true. Was in my case anyway. Twice, nights before the divorce, X suddenly began bubbling and bawling regret and remorse to me over the phone. She didn't follow up with any requests or hints at reconciliation, so, I didn't bite. Just let her go on. Felt like she was doing it only for herself, anyway.
In the end she did nothing, postponed nothing, changed nothing. Divorced me right on schedule as cold as ice.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
