Rejoice Ministries is a wonderful site. The ideas about standing, having faith, honoring your vows, are all wonderful things.
One of the things you should have noticed is that Charlene, while she was standing, also continued living…
Continued her life, while still remaining true to her vows and her ultimate goal of a restored M, but not letting it destroy who SHE was…
And if I remember correctly, she and Bob actually divorced and he was to marry someone else…
It can be done, both standing and DB…
This is a long road to walk…
One that has the potential to destroy you if you choose to just stand still through it…
I hope that you continue posting, growing, becoming less confused, really understanding what people have said to you…
I am sorry if you felt that I am frustrated with you.
I remember all too well being stuck. When I see that in other people, I become frustrated with myself and how long it took me to realize that I was the key to my own happiness…
And how long and hard I actually fought the idea...
Sometimes, I just want to reach through the computer and scream “don’t do what I did, get it sooner...”
But I can’t exactly do that…
Please, please, take some time, reread the threads and see what the consistent messages have been, not about a specific situation, but the overall situation…
Read the resources again, wrap your head around the CONCEPT of MLC…just don’t get stuck in the time frames…
Then find the thread here on MLC, maybe someone can link it up, about the journey of the LBS… Ask questions if you have them, about the process…
Take a step out of the confusion…
Oh and I really like Fixer’s GAL suggestions…
Maybe think about some of those…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
