How do I act?

[steady]

one thing you need to know is there is a difference between a man and a woman when it comes to 'talking'. It has been my experience (people please don't jump me) that men like to talk about exchanging information. Women, on the other hand, create relationships with talking.

Men will work through their problems with logic, etc.. women will talk through their problems. It's different ways of dealing with things. When I have a whole lot going on I usually like to be alone and reflect...too much outside interference becomes stressful because it interferes with my processing. Women tend to flock toward the company of their support to talk out their issues. Again, people, don't kick my a$$ on this. Thanks.

If you are going over the same thing over and over this is definitely going to turn your husband off.

Instead, let me ask you this:

What is it that you aren't getting from him which causes you to talk about the same thing over and over?

My W had said at one point that I was repeating myself. I turned around and said, "I think I'm repeating myself because you are not indicating to me that you are hearing what I'm saying". This is just one example.

There is some reason you are seemingly beating a dead horse (from your H position). Leave the R talks for now. But think about what your are not getting when you rehash these issues.

Focus on being the best woman you can be. Just work on having fun right now. The answers you are seeking will come.

Sometimes we get so absorbed in 'fixing' everything that it becomes our only focus point and it gets exhausting. Have fun. Enjoy both of your new found 'awakedness' of the relationship. Keep the R talks to a minimum I think.

You are both emotionally exhausted. Why not try to recharge each others batteries?