How do I act?

[Surviving03]

Thank you Steady, you always have great insight to offer....

Well, so far, still so good..... two whole days! thats a record for H! lol One thing I am learning is that when I try to talk to H about the situation still, I can see that he is willing to talk thru the emotions for so long, and then I can see that same old familiar look creeping over his face of annoyance that we are STILL talkin about this stuff.... which of course drives me crazy cause it is things I need some answers to, or at least I think I do. BUT, I know one of his orginial complaints in the marriage was that I make everything "an issue" and he felt we had conversations like this all the time about old issues, its like he just wants to talk about it once, and thats it... and he might be right... who wants to sit and talk about the same old crap 100 times... not H! lol... so i decided that I am not going to talk about the stuff anymore until I get that book in the mail "Getting thru to the Man you Love" cause what I do... doesnt work. I am also going to save the issues directly related to this bomb for counseling.

H agreed to start going to church with me, so that was nice.... thank goodness the service here starts at 6pm, cause if it was too early in the morning that would be a no go! lol

I can see that H really wants to try... I saw last night that it was getting hard for him when I kept talking all night about this situation.. I am going too much too soon I think....