Possible EA - sitting on the edge

[BWP]

Puppy - I agree. I never ran to someone else when this all began.

I assume now I'm in a holding pattern now. I'm focused on GAL and I'm cool and friendly with W.

I followed through on consequences and intel is out the window now. W doesn't use my computer anymore, won't be seen dead with cell phone and has any other evidence well hidden but at this point I don't think I need anything else.

Now we live in the same house and have almost no R. I told her to leave but she won't and this woman can be very stubborn. I know I should probably leave but I just can't bring myself to do that with D in the picture.

I love W but I'm not sure this is reparable.

I need to think of some more ways to GAL. I already work out regularly, sing in my band and have been doing some volunteering as well as spending as much time with D as I can. I find though that the weekends are the toughest.

[BWP]

I'm looking for some advice.

W is in Las Vegas with a female friend (but who really knows) and I know she's seen her own lawyer. Amazing how easy that was to find on a notebook in the office but every trace of her cell phone records is gone.

Anyway, I'm wondering on my next steps. Should I be dark? W has been sitting with me watching TV at nights, came down and shared dinner with me a few times. As much as I've detached these are the circumstances where I'm not sure if I'm making matters worse or better.

W never committed to ending EA and is likely hiding the contact now. No one has sided with me from W family or friends so is it 'dark' time until W starts doing the work? Are there other consequences beyond what I've done?

Or should I be making myself the better option and spending time with W etc.

Anyone with any thoughts please share.

[MrBond]

I might have missed something in your threads, but did you actually find concrete evidence of OM?

[BWP]

Cell phone records with late night hour plus phone calls to OM while out of town or when I was away, multiple calls per day as soon as I left for work or just before I returned or when W was going to or coming from the Gym, text that stated 'if I wasn't in a legally binding contract I'd swear you were made for me', confirmed ride out of town on business trip by OM that W lied about.

I didn't get anymore as when W found recorder in her car that someone left there she stopped getting cell bills to house, hid phone and stopped using home computer.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

. . . so yeah, concrete evidence.

[MrBond]

So did you tell her she needed to end it with the OM? All this information isn't going to help you unless you know how to use it.

[BWP]

I did tell her that - I said 'I won't live in an open marriage' 'I want you to end your infidelity with OM'

I exposed to her family and best friend (already turned against me). I asked her to leave and she said no.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Then I would say it's time to kick it up a notch.

[BWP]

That's what I was thinking but not sure what that means.

[MrBond]

What was her answer to you after you told her you weren't going to be in an open marriage?