feel like giving up - pt 2

[ImprovedRomeo]

T, maybe others will disagree but you should try and change your attitude 180 degrees especially around your H even if you have to fake it!

If he didn't say hi don't shutdown! I'd perk up and say 'hey, how was the trip?' then don't pay attention to his attitude keep saying stuff out of your script which should include lots of perky, detached statements. Here's the reason, he knows and expects you to do and behave a certain way. You're predictable to him - not a bad thing after being married to someone so long but right now you gotta change that. If he says something mean laugh and say something like 'alright...I'm going <out, to watch TV, to read a book> we can talk about this later ok?' - then disappear.

Maybe not a great example but you get the idea...prep ahead of time and anticipate what things he can do that will send you in a downward spiral and then have an escape plan for that situation that should be a 180!

Yes, definitely find a lawyer. I'll message you with a recommendation to get you started.