Brief update - I moved my stuff from our house (STBEX made her move seven months ago to her new digs) to a rental place about a month ago. The kids and the dogs have adjusted very well but will post more later...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Just to let you folks know I'm hosting a frat party on FLTC's thread...he's a great guy, he won't mind a few more dropping over. Did I mention he's sending me to UCONN? What a guy! Btw, we're short of Guiness so bring some on over. Sol's bringing munchies.
Depends on your mood at the moment. With the weather starting to warm up, weissbeer may be the better choice - with a slice of lemon on the side...
A thinker! I love it, c'mon over to FLTC's and help us to think up a way to blame Sol for the all the mess we're gonna make Bring whatever booze you think fits the occasion, I'm easy.
Today my L sent me an e-mail forwarded from STBEX's L with some minor changes to the separation agreement (took the other L two weeks to send the e-mail to my L but that seems to be par for the course... ) I was good with the minor changes but I reminded my L to ask why something I had asked to be included in the SA (and which W agreed to when we met face-to-face with both L's over 7 months ago) was not.
STBEX had put into the SA language that neither of us would seek to sue a third party for alienation of affection. In response, I asked that language be added that as long as we are separated, neither party would be allowed to have overnight visits with people of the opposite sex as long as the kids were in her or my care. At the time, STBEX agreed to it and her L did not see any problem with it. So why wasn't it added? Your guess is as good as mine but I think it might be a control issue. My IC and my L both thought adding the language was a very good idea - should be interesting how STBEX responds to it...
Again - it's a very minor point but one I feel strongly about. I know that once the D is final, all bets are off...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
We're at Sol's thread now, FLTC came home early! Sol's got tattooing equipment we can play with, so we're gonna tattoo each others butts! Btw, by putting that language re: overnight visitors in the SA what happens if one party violates that agreement? Do you go to court over it? Spend thousands of dollars to get what? I understand the emotional importance of it and the best interests of your child but the reality is big people sleep together and kids are gonna know it at some point. So what's the upside with getting that put in? I'm not saying there isn't one, just wondering what it would be?
Wii - this topic was something that I had a great deal of discussion about separately with my IC as well as with my L and what I felt comfortable with exposing our kids to up to the time of D. I seriously doubt that going to court over it would be worth anything but I did want to make my views crystal clear to W - which she (at the time seven months ago) understood and agreed with.
I do understand that I cannot control (and do not want to control) what W does when she has our kids - but I think I am entitled to know why it was not addressed in the SA when W said it would be...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Bring whatever booze you think fits the occasion, I'm easy.
) I was good with the minor changes but I reminded my L to ask why something I had asked to be included in the SA (and which W agreed to when we met face-to-face with both L's over 7 months ago) was not.