I am having a panic attack tonight navigating my way thru refinance papers. It is so scary to take on such a huge financial responsibility alone. UGH!! My lifestyle is going to take a huge hit. I just need to figure out ways to cut corners and make the situation work.
H called tonight. I didn't even answer the phone. I am so not in the mood to discuss any of this although I know we need to. I am living in my house right now like nothing has changed. Eventually my H is going to come and raid half of what we built together. All of this is very very scary. Are we going to be bickering over screw drivers and wine glasses? I just don't know what to expect. Sorry to raid your post...just having a moment.
You will only fight over this stuff if want to. Keep your sanity that's all I can tell you about this process.
Do you have to keep the house? Have you thought of just selling and starting over. A lot of ghosts there. Don't underestimate their presence and its impact on you either. I lived with W in her house she built with xH I will never go back there. And in hindsight would not do it again.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
