My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[WhatNow]

IMHO, "Option 1" only works BEFORE there is OM in the picture.

In your position, Ken, I would make a statement something like: Your contact with OM is very painful for me and is destroying the loving feelings I have for you. Then shut up about A and M.

I would Plan A for 2-3 weeks to leave her with a positive impression of you and your M and then boot her if she was still in contact w/OM. Handing her a letter reiterating your above statement: "Your contact with OM is so painful, I cannot tolerate it any longer. You must leave. I do not wish to have any contact with YOU, until youhave ended contact with him permanently, forever, and are willing to be voluntarily transparent with me to earn my trust in you again."

IDK something like that. Allen and puppy are really good at statements. I tend to rattle on and you want it concise.



Please guys! Stop quoting my terms option 1 & 2! I was attempting to be somewhat facetious since #1 and 3 really are not "options".

Ken, She may be using this time and the MC visit to justify why she must leave you! "See, world, I tried everything to save my marriage."

You must do a 180 now. Be a rock, a stable secure place for her to land. And rocks don't DO anything. They are just there, solid. You are all over the place at the moment. Get control of yourself and your emotions.

Yes, I know all of this sounds counter-intuitive.

Are you reading and re-reading?

There is a list of 180's around here somewhere...Print it out, read it once an hour...I'm not kidding! I think you can save your M, but you have to back off! You have to set a boundary, not just threaten one.