Too Late For Us?

[ninelives]

WOW. That is strange. Will your wife see that as a sign or a mere coincidence. Anyway Mr. Hope you are able to cope with whichever way it goes. I feel for you man, the uncertainty is the worst by far.

Don't want to offer you false hope but even that gesture of stopping at the church means she has doubt. Don't know how long it takes before they reach an epiphany that " Hey , i'm doing the wrong thing kicks in" Its different for everybody.

Hang in there.

[timehealsall]

uhm, WOW!

I just wanted to say that maybe that was God's version of her being struck by lightening? OUCH! Not that I'd wish pain on your W..

I hope this is a good sign for you! I pray it'll all work out!

[Number 8]

mrbt, this is unbelievable!! I mean, this is an absolutely incredible story. This is a sign, for sure. And I second the question asked earlier: will SHE see it as a sign?

I'm sorry your W is not well, and I hope she has a good recovery.

Your loyalty is amazing. Have a great rest of the week!

[mrbt]

"Will she she it as a sign? She found it significant enough to send an e-mail to her (Christian) counselor describing the whole thing. It has not changed her mind but has given her pause. Her e-mail (she read it to me) finished with something like this . . .

"Why am I still thinking about divorce? Do you think I need a kick in the head? Maybe I bought more time to think this over?"

[MrBond]

I'd be cautious and not make too big a deal of it. She's still going to have to process everything and in the end it's going to be her decision on what she wants to do.

If she could get Godly counsel now, it would be great. But it has to come from someone else and not you.

[mrbt]

I understand MrBond. I am not allowing myself to become too hopeful.

She is seeing a counselor on a weekly basis. Unfortunately, our marriage is not the primary focus of the counseling. However, it has become more prominent in the last few sessions.

I think I am almost at the point (emotionally) that I will be okay either way. I would prefer to save the marriage but I do not want to be someone that isn't truly committed to the relationship.

I am just taking it one day at a time.

[mrbt]

Wife and I will be cooking on the grill tonight. We're so weird.

[idontunderstand]

I know it would be hard for me to not become too hopeful. You are on the right track. Stay in your present state of mind and you will be okay either way.

BTW, good luck!

This sounds like something that happens in the movies. Wow!

Hope but don't expect anything. Sending prayers!!!!!

[mrbt]

I am glad I didn't get my hopes up. Wife came over after work, we had dinner and sat on the porch and talked. She told me she intended to continue her counseling and, if she didn't feel differently by the end of May, she would proceed with the divorce. The way she talked, and things she said, tell me she has no intention, of giving our marriage a chance.

She was a very different person than she was yesterday. There is some kind of jekyll and hyde thing going on here. She had too much wine and turned caustic - lots of WAS spew. I was careful not to be drawn into a fight. I am starting to recognize this and I didn't let it happen this time.

[Number 8]

So now things with court are tabled until May? I guess that's good, especially if she still needs time to think. I remember your saying that the counselor didn't support divorce, so maybe she'll listen to more of this.

Sorry things were difficult tonight. Doesn't it sometimes feel like you're being baited?