My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[MrBond]

There is never a clear cut "Option 1" or "Option 2" etc.

It's always something in-between. Maybe the first thing you need to do is not "think" communication has stopped between OM and your W. Your W should be completely transparent in her actions. She needs to tell you who she's calling, let you check her phone records, stuff like that. She has to have YOUR trust. Not the other way around.