Technically this is true, but maybe I guess I have more of a feeling of abandonment. Things got too tough, and he split.
I totally get that. For me, my W doesn't actually leave, she just repeats it so often I am expecting it. When I need her most now, she wants to separate in the house so she doesn't have to be around with my problems.
It feels like abandonment and a real attack on the vulnerable nature of a married relationship. The hard part, I think, is not acting as though it were abandonment because it isn't.
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I'm angry that he doesn't think I'm worth the effort. I'm angry that he won't even consider trying to work on things.
I think, these seem like judgements, not actual facts. He has run away, but that doesn't mean he didn't consider it or think you aren't worth it. It might, but maybe there are other reasons. For example, maybe he thinks he can't ever be good enough to satisfy you and you deserve better. He may say otherwise in 'male pride', but I'm just saying there may be equally likely reasons.
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I don't know how to go about doing this at this moment. He is determined to go straight down the divorce path, and he's not looking back.
So fight for your M. Fight. Don't just passively wait around. I'm not saying pursue and nag. I'm saying plan how to get allies, look for opportunities, get him to wonder about your life (build curiosity), etc.
I hope you had a good day today, and a good sleep, Number 8.
