However, the two years that you spent working on M are very good in that you know within yourself that you GAVE your all from a place of honesty. You will not be haunted by what ifs in that regard.
I always say that we each have to walk our paths and you alone know what you are facing and what your deal breakers are. I feel badly for your boys and pray that you will have the strength to lead them through this. Continue to be good to yourself and draw strength. You will be fueled by anger and determination but it will also be natural to feel sadness at the loss of your combined lives regardless of what Mr.M has done. Just take really good care of Mind.
I like the part where you are seeing yourself in the mirror. I like that!