Thanks for sharing that MF. I can really understand how that was a dealbreaker for you. sending hugs.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
/Found a jersey //Intruding on your sport next... ///How many of these can you use? smile
Intrude away. I think you'd do good on a bike. It's always nice to have female riding companionship. It beats being forced to stare at my buddies rear ends any day. LOL.
--Ferg
/slashies? You can use as many as you want. //but don't get too carried away ///Or else you are required to end it with: ////slashies
While I know our situations are not close to being the same, I had to sit on my intel and what I knew for close to a half a year. I can relate to the feelings it stirs up and how difficult keeping quiet until the time is right is.
Mind, sorry to hear your sitch. That's a tough one and I feel you made the right decision. It's always better to ACT than REACT.
Like others I too would like to borrow your mind and heart when you're done.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I could really write a speech of thank you to all of you, but I won't because, truthfully, I'm pretty verbose, and you'd all fall asleep.
Wish you were all local, as it really is touching to be cared about and for. Special thanks for Fergalicious for being "here"...
I have the final report from the PI. It is all I didn't hope for and more. Onward and upward. Kind of a relief, really... Not looking forward to the process, but "jazzed" about the ability to affect the outcome.
Love you all!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Being local would be nice. But, it's not altogether awful to have friends all across the world! No matter where you go, there's someone nearby to support you. Life could be a lot worse!
I'm sorry you got such awful news. Not shocked, but really POed!
And good for you, talking the situation by the horns. You are running the ship now!
That must have been really hard to deal with the report. I'm glad that you have the strength that you have. hugs!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
However, the two years that you spent working on M are very good in that you know within yourself that you GAVE your all from a place of honesty. You will not be haunted by what ifs in that regard.
I always say that we each have to walk our paths and you alone know what you are facing and what your deal breakers are. I feel badly for your boys and pray that you will have the strength to lead them through this. Continue to be good to yourself and draw strength. You will be fueled by anger and determination but it will also be natural to feel sadness at the loss of your combined lives regardless of what Mr.M has done. Just take really good care of Mind.
I like the part where you are seeing yourself in the mirror. I like that!
