(((Dedicated))) - I haven't had time to read your whole thread- it is long :-). But r22 asked some of us to look in on you- I agree, move to newcomers and also, what helped me get more comments on mine was to start commenting on others' threads- even if you feel you're really new and don't have much advice to offer, stop by some others' and leave small comments. And then link your thread in your signature so those people can look easily if they're curious.
I want to know- since you're 'dedicated'- and I don't mean this to sound harsh- but when are you going to be 'dedicated' to YOU? This man- his behavior right now- to me is not deserving of anything from you. You need money, protection- financial and physical possibly, based on some of your comments- and to keep you and your kids healthy and safe. If you don't have your own job or money and he's cutting you off, I myself might file to protect assets b/c you can't be dependent on him at this point. And the filing of D is NOT the anniversary of it- that would be when the D becomes final. So do what you need to do, ok?
I don't know how much I'd rely on his fam. do you have family/friends in area to lean on?
I'll try to check in again on you-- but move your thread and link it in your signature--
take care- Alice
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
I opted not to call his mother. Prayed for God to give me a more clear sign as to what to do. Guess my sign was her calling me. Please see my post in Newcomer's forum, H left almost 3 weeks ago.
Hope to see you responding there as you've been a great help and comfort.
I didn't see your response earlier. As you can see in my response to rr22, I started posting on my Newcomer's thread again. Please see the thread there.
I'll def check others' threads and try and leave some sort of comment, hopefully something worthwile.
As for the question regarding where my dedication lies? You'll see via the thread in Newcomers that I'm switching where that dedication lies. I do not want any of what's going on in my life but as of today, I've accepted that this is happening and that all I can control is me. I'm dedicated to me and my kids. That's where my dedication lies now. If he should want to mend things in the future, he will definitely have lots of proving to do and will only being allowed to R with me after proving himself and meeting my stipulations. I'm done with being used as a doormat and treated like a dog. I deserve better and won't waste my time worrying over someone who no longer worries over me.
Dedicated, I mostly post in my other forum in infedility called "How to expose the affair". Here is a link if you want to catch up on whats going with the D papers and other stuff.
