80% come back?

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BH, I think you are right that many MLCers never come out of it. They whirl and twirl and are basically lost the rest of their lives, if they ever grow up.

However, I have noticed that most MLCers DO have moments where they try to approach the LBS--sometimes directly, sometimes not. I would say that that is the norm, not the exception. It is really mostly a matter of timing.

The thing is, the LBS has often moved on by then--has gained self-esteem, perhaps has a new love, and sometimes has new standards that they insist. Although I am not currently involved with anyone, I am certainly leaning that way and it would take a great, great deal for X to win me back at this point. In fact, I doubt it could happen.

X hasn't expressed an interest but if he were to do so, I don't think I would take him up on it.