I didn't toss his stuff out. I carefully packed everything in sturdy boxes. I labeled the boxes with everything in them, even the boxes with all the weird small misc. stuff that is the hard stuff to pack.
I stacked it all fairly neatly in the garage. The last stuff was hard, of course, because you get to all the bits and pieces that don't really categorize into anything specific.
He asked, in his angry email: who is coaching you on this? honestly, who is telling you to act in this way?
And believe me, the coaching I got was to: throw his stuff out the window. Sell it on ebay. Put it on ebay and craigslist.
Well, I guess only I get the satisfaction of knowing I did it in the cleanest, most honorable way I could.
OK, I'm way late! I'm so sorry I wasnt' around last week for you during this rough time. I think FM is spot on as to why X is PO'd. Whatever. Having a hissy, and accusing you when HE is the one who is w/o honor. You have a right to be upset, and to your feelings. Keep venting as long as you need, but I hope now, a week later you are not still letting his cr*p take up rent in your mind! You were right - you know it. I know how upsetting those nasty emails from X can be.
You are doing great - I know. The packing - I've been doing it the last 2 wkends - uggghhh. It's gut wrenching. And I've only been really packing my stuff!! Whatever X says, try not to take it to heart. Easy to say right? But learning/trying to do that, as advised here & in DB, was a huge help to me. His attacks are fueled by guilt. You are owning your part, maybe more than you should. I totally relate. But he's not owning his, he's not doing the personal growth you are - painful though it is. So all he can do is lash out.
Hold your head high, you are behaving with "character, strength & honor" - quoting a favorite line by Puppy.
Thank you for your supportive & caring post in my low point last week. It means so much. I'll check in again soon. ((((Aver))))
