Understand this is HIS loss, not yours....you've lost nothing, he will lose EVERYTHING, and that is NOT in a material sense.
You can't buy a faithful spouse who loves you with every last bit of the heart. Who's there when needed, cared about, supported and most of all, was there when no one else was for the husband/wife who's running away.
Who's still there, even now, as the MLC'er shirks responsibility for their own actions.
Maybe I should have grouped them together for better understanding...I was detailing HIS losses in this.
I'm not discounting your losses, not at all. Those have to be grieved through and come to terms with in time.
There are ALWAYS losses on BOTH sides of the marriage when a break occurs, and in the end the MLC'er will always lose MORE than the LBS ever does. The LBS retains his/her integrity, along with a clear conscience...which is more than the MLC'er will ever have unless major changes occur within if/when they come through the crisis.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
