I would let your W know that living in a celibate R as roommates will not work for you for two years. She is simply keeping her life as easy as possible while she finishes school.
Let her make the choice but if she chooses not to work on the marriage there is not a reason in the world for her to live with you for the next 2 years. IMO she is simply using you for housing and to maintain a certain level of financial and emotional comfort (on her terms).
I agree.. That is just a load of crap and you do not deserve it.
Having done an "in house seperation" for a while, the cheated partner gets stripped emotionally and will be less desireable even in outside situations as a result. The only way to counter this is to cheat or to leave. Regular affections by person of the opposite sex can counter a neglectful spouse. The question becomes why be married if the spouse does not want to be concerned with your needs or well-being?
