reconciliation after divorce?

[MrBond]

"How long ago did she find out about your A?

I'm with Gucci all the way. If she found out a long time go, and was just squirrelling it away to use as an excuse now, well, f her!"

From what I understand she just found out about it after he had been hiding it for awhile.

Well since she's reacting negatively to what you're saying, just back off. Just back off and GAL. You can remain friendly to her but not necessarily friends. Let her rage through her own emotions on her own. At this point no matter what you say, she's going to say the opposite just for the sake of being right. It's called pride. And unless she gets over herself and her 'oh woe is me' attitude, anything you say isn't going to help.