Invinceable

[dday101798]

but I know what I'm feeling and it's scaring the hell out of me!

My only question is, is he giving you genuine reason to have that feeling or are you?

[mishka422]

Not in words Dylan. I would need to hear the words come out of his mouth that he wants to work on putting our M back together. I'm scared that I am letting his actions lead my heart into dark, murky territory and I know I can't survive having my heart tromped on again. His actions are loving, he's being so affectionate and that is so different from how he was after the first couple of years of our M. It feels like he's gone back behaving toward me like he did when we were first M'd. That is what is causing me all of the confusion. I have no idea what he is thinking or if he just knows that behaving this way toward me will keep my bed open to him. I want so badly to just outright ask him, but it doesn't feel like I have a right to do that at this point.

[kat727]

Of course you have the right!! Ask him what his thoughts are. You are only going to make a murkier mess out of it speculating!

kat

[mishka422]

I am not wanting to speculate at all so I am only looking at myself and what this is doing to me. I feel that if I outright ask him what his feelings are toward me I'm going to make things awkward and frankly I'm enjoying having him around. That just sucks!

Ok, so how would you word the question in a non-pushy, non-threatening way?

[dday101798]

Simply put: [with concealed emotion]

"Gabe, what are your intentions here?"

Then, carefuly judge his response looking for any indiation of deceit and have your b/s meter in prime repair.

You need to know, if he is seriously interested in you as a person to have in his life, tried and true, or a taken advantage of piece of ---.

capiche?

[kat727]

Gabe, I must admit I am pleasantly surprised how nice it has been to have you around these past couple of weeks. I appreciate the work around the house and your helping with Mom and Marc. I find myself taken aback that I find myself thinking about you now and then. I was wondering if you have any thoughts about the time you've been here and about the time you have spent with me?

How's that?

kat

[kat727]

LOL the difference between men and women!

[dday101798]

LOL the difference between men and women!

Guess that was something about my response.

My point is, if I were mish, I would want to know right now, if my (x)W were wanting to truly work things out, or just buttering things up to be bed buddies unitl something better rolls around

[kat727]

Oh I agree, she needs to know. She just asked for a non-pushy/threatening way. I make it flowery and you are right to it.

kat

[dday101798]

Guilty as charged. As said, simply put, not pushy, not threatening.