The light at the end of the tunnel

[kjensen]

Understand this is HIS loss, not yours....you've lost nothing, he will lose EVERYTHING, and that is NOT in a material sense.

I agree with everything but this. I know I have lost things with the end of our relationship:
my best friend
daily companionship/intimacy
trust(working on rebuilding it)
(coming soon) daily living with my children
family friends and family-family get-togethers
a cohesive family unit

just to name a few...

I have detached and will detach more. I know that is the key for me to move on as a whole and healthy person. I realize frequently that the man my H is right now, this very minute, is not the man I want to be married to. The man H is right now is still angry(although he denies it) and overly-sensitive and empty, a shell of the former man he was. I can see H trying to be the father he was, but its hit or miss and there's alot of making up to do with the girls.