Do you have some "wickedly fun" girlfriends? Sounds like that might be what you need. They'll help you find out what you like; nothing like good "girl time." Just from your posts it sounds like you were so wrapped up in him and your kids you forgot about you. I did the same thing and had to make my "list."

New things I like:
Spin class at the gym
Rockclimbing
Zumba
Facebook
Craigslist
Eating anything I want when I want
Martinis
Spas that do things with mud! smile
Journaling
Holding my cats
Breathing deeply and often

Etc., etc, etc....
Even the small things count!

Good luck, hang in there, and find yourself...


Me 55
H 49
Married 21 years
No kids
bomb 5/09
filed 7/09
divorced and moving forward 5/10

Life is all about Plan B