Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

mza8,
I ahd a 3 hour drive for business today and that gave me time to think about the invite.

I agree that she might think it's best for the D5 but I'm not sure.
In my first or second thread here she invited me to Thanksgiving dinner b/c she thought is was the right thing to do. I agreed and it was a mistake. It was 3 months after the bomb and T-giving dinner was so awkward. for her family and me. When I went to leave the kids were crying hysterically.

I tried to do things with her and the kids after that but she would remind me "Remember what happen at Thanksgiving?" "I don't want to confuse the kids agian."

So I stopped asking to do things with her AND the kids.
We are not a family.

Know back to my thinking about this graduation dinner.

I was thinking about declining to go b/c of the kids and saying something like this:

"I have decided not to be seen with another women in front of my kids until I feel comfortable that they will be OK with her and me being together. I do not want the kids to have false hopes when they see us together, remember what happened at Thanksgiving?"

What do you think?

I want to show her that I am pulling away from her.