The SAME exact thing happened in my stitch. It wasn't until my husband got EXACTLY what he had been asking for (his own apartment, freedom to do what he wanted, me away from him) that he FINALLY started to wake up and have second thoughts. And all the time that I had been GAL when I thought he didn't notice and the OW going crazy and pursuing him more and more really turned things around in my favor. Also, when I moved out essentially and husband got his new apartment he realized that what he really missed was his family. In our old apartment even without me there he still had memories, but in his new apartment with none of my decorating touches, no memories, and him starting over I think it got to him.
Remember though to be even MORE detached. REALLY GIVE HIM HIS SPACE. NO MORE TALK from you on saving the marriage. Your husband sounds like he wants to try to work it out but doesn't want the pressure of "trying" to work it out...he said he doesn't want to give you false hope and then you take it and run. Let him lead...NO TALK AT ALL FROM YOU ON MARRIAGE, FAMILY, ETC.
GIVE HIM PLENTY OF SPACE. he is on his own now so let him REALLY FEEL HOW BEING ON HIS OWN IS. I gotta strong feeling he won't like it too much :-)
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
