Ok, see this is where I really get confused. The book and people on this board say to show the changes to the WAS and they will notice. Show them this and that and see if it works, if it doesn't try something else.
I get that and I do believe that the WAS's will and do notice the changes (in time, lots of it) but that is no guarantee that your marriage will be saved.
The book also says that there are no guarantees and that you could do everything "right" (what is that?) and still end up divorced.
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Also, they say to fake it until you make it and the WAS will notice changes in you. So it's not just for myself, it's suppose to be for my M right????
Notice? Yes. Come back? Who knows?
We can't control that. We can "set the stage" so to speak, but you're dealing with another person's free will here.
Change for you and you can't lose no matter what the outcome is.
