Need a Plan for My Marriage

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LSG - All your feelings above I think are normal and very hard to deal with. I felt the same way. I thought I could end the A and control their R. I did expose and my H still denies (just friends he claims). I feel much better staying out of his A drama. Don't get me wrong I still think about it a lot. However, I have decided to let the A run it's course and make sure I'm the better option. I know the OW will eventually start nagging my H to not contact me, file, and commit to her. That will drive him away from her. I didn't trust that or believe it at first, but I do now. Letting go of trying to control the A has been the best thing I've ever done in my sitch.

I think you are doing very well considering the postition you are in, hang in there