Ok, see this is where I really get confused. The book and people on this board say to show the changes to the WAS and they will notice. Show them this and that and see if it works, if it doesn't try something else.
Now you are saying of course it's not going to work. I showed my H that I could get things done without him and got nothing, I asked about the pool last month and he wanted to come help. He contacted me and was nice about it.
I don't plan on asking about the sand for the pool, because of the advice I got on here. Fixer was the only one that said he would like to be needed. So I changed my mind.
I'm glad that you understand that everyone moves through their own pain at their own time.
Also, they say to fake it until you make it and the WAS will notice changes in you. So it's not just for myself, it's suppose to be for my M right????
