I didn't contact H about the pool. I said I would wait a couple of weeks before I did.
I don't plan on contacting him about the pool since I read the advice from everyone. It's just that Fixer has gone through what our spouses are going through and thought he would be the one to understand what goes on in a MLCer's mind a little bit.
I know that people on here don't want to see me in pain and I appreciate that 100%!
I will not ignore your post at all, I don't ignore anyone's post. You are right, I need to stop being the victim and start healing!!!